Emotions is one of those areas that most people do not fully understand and in
most societies, is not fully expressed.
In coaching, I find that all clients
have "emotional blockages" that prevent them from achieving goals.
most societies, is not fully expressed.
In coaching, I find that all clients
have "emotional blockages" that prevent them from achieving goals.
We all have 'upsets" and when dealing with these upsets, we need to be able to rationalise what the upset is about and how it is affecting our lives and those around us in order to achieve our chosen goals.
It is critical to seek professional advice for dealing with emotional challenges. In a recent episode of 'Survivor', host Jeff Probst had to deal with a angry, raging contestant, Brandon. All the upset Brandon wanted to do was physically attack and fight with another contestant Phillip. Brandon was feeling depressed and missing his family. He stated that he wanted to go home and no longer wnated to be in the game. His anger was triggered by Phillip attempting to tell Brandon to trust him and he, Phillip, would let him, Brandon, know when it was time to leave.
Brandon saw this as a threat and, in his mind, was not going to have Phillip or anyone else for that matter in charge of his, Brandon's, destiny. The situation became very volatile and Brandon went crazy in the camp destroying essential food etc which of course upset the entire tribe. The tribe was very traumatised and all agreed to throw the challenge and send Brandon home.
At the challenge, Brandon wanted to fight with Phillip. Jeff handled the situation with professionalism and empathy. He isolated Brandon into neutral territory, talked him down and kept him away from the others while the situation was discussed. Brandon was sent home and everyone was able to calm down.
To anyone watching these events, Brandon would appear to be psychotic. We will leave that assessment to the psychological experts. The point of this story is to consider the intensity of the emotional reaction. The discussion with Phillip "triggered' a massive upset that once Brandon is rational, he will be able to analyse with the assistance of a professiona. The question for Brandon is what belief system was challenged by Phillip's staements? From there he will be able to examine and possibly set about changing the "compromised belief system" in order to grow and learn.
The challenge for every one of us is to look at who and what pushes our buttons and realise it is an emotional upset caused by a compromised internal belief system. Once we can look at these upsets objectively, we can then decide what needs to change in order for us to progress our goals.
Coach Julie
Brandon saw this as a threat and, in his mind, was not going to have Phillip or anyone else for that matter in charge of his, Brandon's, destiny. The situation became very volatile and Brandon went crazy in the camp destroying essential food etc which of course upset the entire tribe. The tribe was very traumatised and all agreed to throw the challenge and send Brandon home.
At the challenge, Brandon wanted to fight with Phillip. Jeff handled the situation with professionalism and empathy. He isolated Brandon into neutral territory, talked him down and kept him away from the others while the situation was discussed. Brandon was sent home and everyone was able to calm down.
To anyone watching these events, Brandon would appear to be psychotic. We will leave that assessment to the psychological experts. The point of this story is to consider the intensity of the emotional reaction. The discussion with Phillip "triggered' a massive upset that once Brandon is rational, he will be able to analyse with the assistance of a professiona. The question for Brandon is what belief system was challenged by Phillip's staements? From there he will be able to examine and possibly set about changing the "compromised belief system" in order to grow and learn.
The challenge for every one of us is to look at who and what pushes our buttons and realise it is an emotional upset caused by a compromised internal belief system. Once we can look at these upsets objectively, we can then decide what needs to change in order for us to progress our goals.
Coach Julie
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